What to consider during COVID

You can still arrange a funeral but only up to 30 people can attend - whether it's indoors or outdoors. However, if it's being held indoors, the venue may only safely accommodate less than 30 people.

 

You may find this list helpful when thinking about the funeral

  • who do you want to attend, being mindful of those in high-risk groups

  • arranging service sheets as service books are unlikely to be available 

  • music, there are limits to singing

  • recording the eulogy on a phone or other recording device so those not in attendance can listen or watch at another time

  • services may need to be shorter so the venue can be cleaned between services

  • social distancing requirements

  • whether it's appropriate to have family members bearing the coffin

  • giving particular consideration if anyone attending has been advised to self-isolate, or anyone advised to shield

 

Option to consider

Organising a celebration of life or memorial for a later date, when it's safe to do so and more people can attend. This also opens up options about venues and locations.

Coping with loss during COVID

 

Being bereaved can be one of the most lonely experiences you or someone you love may go through. During the pandemic many people will have to spend time apart from friends and family and this can make grieving and coping much more difficult.

Here are some suggestions from the CRUSE website that might be helpful.

 

Reach out. While you may feel alone (and in some cases are, physically) know that you don’t have to be alone with your grief. CRUSE has a helpline you can call t: 0808 808 1677. You can also call or text your friends and family and use social media.

If you find some people do not respond in the way you hoped try not to feel let down, this is often about their own fears and current situation. They might be feeling helpless, as they know they can't fix your grief, it can help to explain what you need at this time – whether that is someone to call in the middle of the night or someone you can share funny stories with about the person who has died. Do not be afraid to ask for help and support.

Look after yourself and get rest. This can sound obvious but at these times it is so easy to want to hide away. We are being encouraged to!  But do try and get some fresh air or sunlight each day - even opening a window can help. If you are allowed, go for a walk or run, or do some excercise in your home - exercise can be really helpful.

Try to keep to a regular routine of getting up and dressed and eating meals at the usual time, whether you are on your own or part of a family group. The structure will help, even if only a little.

 

Expect bad days and better days. You may find you have days when you have more energy and the grief isn’t as consuming - this is normal. Some people can feel guilty when this happens, but there is no need. It is all a normal part of grieving. Equally if you are really struggling that is also normal. Please don’t feel guilty or angry with yourself. You could also reach out to others who might also be finding it difficult, you may be able to help each other.

Seek practical help from friends, family, colleagues and neighbours.